When I heard about Winter Retreat at the beginning of this semester, going was just a matter of whether or not I had free time. I have been on church retreats and missions trips and have strongly experienced God before, so I figured this time wouldn’t be much different. The Holy Spirit would come, we would feel its power, and we would come back to AU, returning to our normal lives. And I was right.
Just kidding. I was dead wrong.
Entering American University as a freshman, I planned to keep working hard academically, but I also decided to extend my social life beyond what it had been in high school. As many do, I plugged into the party scene at AU–going to frat parties on weekends, drinking in dorm rooms, and smoking weed in the woods. My life perfectly encapsulated the “work hard, play hard” mindset, as I would be hardworking and devoted to my studies during the week, and drunk and high on the weekends.
Not only did I separate my academic and social lives, but I also put my “spiritual life” and my relationship with God in a box. God was saved for Thursday Night Worship and small group meetings on Monday nights. Keeping Him detached from other aspects of my life, including the way I conducted myself on a day-to-day basis, made everything safe. I could do whatever I wanted while also “keeping God happy” by doing Chi Alpha. As long as my two different worlds didn’t intersect, everything was great.
This inconsistency bothered me at times. I remember a specific instance where a friend asked me if I was a Christian. I replied, “Yes,” then I left my dorm to go get high. Looking back, I actually have no words for my blatant disrespect towards God. Yet at the time I managed to brush off the occasional guilt and keep my perfectly divided life in tact.
This continued into Winter Retreat. I was excited to experience the Holy Spirit, but I still had thoughts about upcoming events like my birthday and St. Patrick’s Day, where I planned to resort to my alternate way of life. (I even considered not going to retreat because of a mixer that was going to happen Saturday night!) But God had drastically different plans, greater than I could’ve imagined. On the Saturday night of retreat, Pastor Brett Fuller talked about Living as an Example,
“in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity,” referring to 1 Timothy 4:12.
Expanding upon each of these aspects of true life and relationship with Christ, everything he said convicted me. I kept thinking, “wow, I’m probably not doing this thing right.” I tried brushing off these thoughts as I always have, convincing myself that I could continue to lead this double life–other people did that too, right?
A fun fact about God: the seeds he plants in our minds WILL grow. You can’t ignore Him. It’s actually impossible. Just a warning, in case you ever wanted to try.
As the Holy Spirit began to work in that hotel reception hall, I decided to release my pride and open myself to what God was trying to tell me. He reminded me of how badly I wanted to fulfill my destiny through Him and do what I was called to do. He then showed me that this was virtually impossible if I planned to continue living my double life. “Who you are today is who you will be tomorrow,” He told me, “and that doesn’t match up with my plan.” …Woah. It hit me like a freight train. How could I stand in services and sing “It will be my joy to say, ‘Your will, your way, always’” if the VERY NEXT DAY I’m knowingly going against His way? Not only does it not match up, but what does it say about my character? I realized that I’ve essentially been living a lie. Wow.
I confided in my small group leader, Sarah, about this revelation and she prayed with me. God then led me to take a humongous leap to writing down a promise to myself and to God–to abstain from the life of partying, drunkenness and getting high in order to pursue God and His plans for me wholly and truthfully. This was HUGE and would change my entire way of living, but God was not letting me away this time. The idea that my present is directly related to my future was hounding at my heart. And it wasn’t the usual “Holy Spirit affair”–messy, emotional, sob-filled. All of it just made sense. And because of that, I chose to trust Him fully.
In another humongous leap and release of pride, I shared my step towards a drug and alcohol-free future with the entire AU Chi Alpha group at retreat…talk about nerve-wracking! But the support, love, and prayers I received in return overwhelmed me and gave me the first sense of true community I have felt since coming to AU. You can’t define “blessed” until you’ve experienced being blessed.
Back in real life, I already find myself facing pressures of my oh-so-recent past. God keeps reminding me, however, that I have the most reliable support in not only in Him, but in AUXA. He’s been so good to me, and I know that will continue.
Do you believe the same? Do you believe that God is working in you RIGHT NOW to shape your mind, heart, soul, and very being for the plans he has in store for your future? Ask God how He is preparing you, or what you need to change in order for Him to work in you.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jer. 29:11)